How To Reclaim Balance When People Are Pissing You Off



How far reaching is your perspective on life?  Do you feel limited or unlimited? The scope of our ability to believe in open-ended possibilities, has a direct effect on our lives, our relationships and the depth of hope in our hearts.  When confronted with problematic personal relationships, be it lack of boundaries or the presence of dividing walls, the challenge of change often begins with ourselves.


It is difficult to take a long, hard look and come away with the realization, that we are seeing only a fraction of overall truth.  We tend to filter life through a lens that is rather murky.  Criticism, judgment, condemnation, etc., all of that negativity shows up when we’re looking at life through a single, pin hole of light.  We think it’s the full picture, but a more accurate assessment reveals that it’s not even close to what’s really happening. We’re forming opinions based on what we see and feel and believe, and a lot of that data might be more illusion than fact.  


Duality is our lot.  In other words, we are limitless, spiritual beings confined within the perceived limitations of an earthly experience.  We don’t have to remain in this cramped space.  We can open our hearts to the fact that there’s more to a person or a situation than what meets the eye.  A perspective that is unlimited is always loving, and always centered. It is Christ-like.  She or he who seeks to accept a person or a situation, whether or not they are in solidarity, is someone who has started down the path of peace.  


Acceptance is not necessarily a whole scale endorsement of something, it’s simply the absence of resistance to ‘what is’.  The magic here is found when we awaken to the full conceptualization of the realm of possibility, and that it is light years beyond a vague and constricted, human understanding. Life (and that includes people) is far more grand, radiant and enormously beautiful than what we are able perceive when looking at it all through a restrictive vantage point.


Maybe the person you are upset with doesn’t know how to be someone who is more attuned to what you believe you need right now.  Given the situation and their own sense of tension, it just might be the best they have to offer at this juncture in time.  We are all on a individual journey and how we live life and express ourselves is unique; and although imperfect, it is our personal experience.  We begin the healing process by forgiving ourselves for assigning blame or claiming victimization; which are spiritually devolved choices, and then we forgive whomever is pissing us off for being … human.  It’s not easy to do, as it requires honesty and personal responsibility, but the result is freedom from distress, as well as spiritual growth.


Find a way to feel empathy for them (and yourself). Remember something, anything, even a small, microcosm of a moment when this person exhibited a quark of goodness.  It will aid you in altering your course and moving away from pain and towards love.  It helps enormously to look past personality and focus your gaze upon the spark of the Divine that resides within each and every one of us.  Nurture unconditional trust and faith in the belief that all things work towards the highest good.  We are here to learn to love.  The struggles and challenges we have with each other are simply lessons that we must master, as we learn along the way, to master our own lives.


There is a halfway house on this path and it’s called kindness.  Step inside and warm up your heart before the fire.  Sit down in that comfy chair by the hearth and stop fighting the world.  Just drop the whole, tangled ball.  Better yet, pitch it into the fire. Let it all be, just exactly as it is and relax your resistance.  Choose acceptance, despite the fact that it’s thorny, messy and wounded; and with this acceptance you can begin to feel peace radiate throughout your whole being.  Once you release the tension, you are free to look at people with more gentleness.  This gift that you are offering them, you have already given to yourself, in this very moment.  


Pave your path forward with grace.  Trust in something bigger and far more expansive than the tired, status quo of a limited perception. Our inner truth balances our outer expression when we live life as limitless, spiritual beings and embrace harmony between ourselves and the world.  We then understand that mercy is to be experienced and given away. 



Bridget Geegan Blanton’s writing career as a newspaper columnist, a web-site contributor, content writer and French language translator has found new expression as a novelist.  ‘Whispers on the Wind’, Bridget’s debut novel was the first installment in the Celtic Heart Historical Fiction Series, that continues with ‘A Woman’s Equal Share’.  The soul-awakening tenets of celtic wisdom embody the spiritual ideal upon which this inspirational series has been crafted. Learn more about the novels and enrich your day spiritually by way of articles and motivational videos at Bridget’s web-site:  http://www.desertrosebooks.com Recently, Bridget became certified as an Angel Card Reader and brings this spiritual perspective to her life and work.


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